My father passed away recently.
By all accounts – including mine – he was a beloved husband, beloved Dad, great friend, great boss, great colleague, and all around great person.
Yes, we all die in the end. But when it comes to the people we are close to, those who we know and love, we can’t help but keep on wishing that they would live forever – or at least a little bit longer.
We will try and accept their passing with all sorts of reasoning such as “It is God’s will,” or “They are going to a better place,” and “They’ve lived a good life,” and so on and so forth. All of those cliches may be true, but it is not quite as simple as rationalizing and just letting go.
No amount of grieving and torturing ourselves can bring back the ones we lost. While we should be allowed as much time as necessary to mourn the loss of our beloved, the most important thing to remember is that we have a limited amount of time on this earth.
We should do our best to do all we can for the people we love. We should show the people we love how much we care about them – while they are alive.
Know this: People are the most important part of our lives, our time is the most important gift we can give them, and time does not stand still. It is not just about saying ‘I love you’ over and over again. It is about showing it in more ways than one.
Spend more time with the people you love. Pick up the phone often and give them a call. Pay them a visit as often as you can. Listen to them speak. Ask them questions to bring back good memories. Make them laugh. Allow them to make you laugh and cry. Be there for them. Pay attention to the things they care about. Love them.
As the Dixie Chicks put it so beautifully in this beautiful cover of the James Taylor tune:
Shower the people you love with love,
Show them the way that you feel.